Reader Question: You Make It Look So Easy


Phenomenal Yetti (may I call you that lol),

First and foremost, you’re like the one year older me! I love your posts and I love love love your honesty. I hope to be as well put together as you are when I turn 25 in December. You make things seem so easy sometimes, and you really are beyond wise for your age. You’ve been through so much, yet you still strive for the best and you seem to be going places. How do you keep a positive spirit? Is there anything you’re not sure you can conquer? Is there anyway we could possibly continue communicating? I would love to pick your brain and have you in my corner.

Janice or Jan


alling me Phenomenal Yetti just got you brownie points! Jan! Thank you, thank you, more thanks for your compliments. If I am the one year older you, then your 25th year is going to be a whirlwind, so please, pretty please, prepare yourself. But back to the note at hand.

I’m going to be completely honest with you. I truly hate when people think I have it easy. It irritates me to no avail. And it’s funny that you sent this note this morning because I recently had a similar conversation with a few friends that seem to view me the same way. They know I work hard, they know I aim to strive for the best, but in the midst of all of this… my life still appears somewhat easy and I never really seem to struggle with anything long-term.

I honestly do not get it. Well, I do, but still.

I’m going to try to explain why I think it comes off this way. I’ve actually touched upon this before in this post. It’s all in how we look at things and of course, it’s what we choose to share. I don’t like to whine, I don’t like to complain, and I don’t like to let the world see me sweat. But Janice, I sweat. I cry. I struggle. I lick my wounds. But I do it behind closed doors. And then I pick myself up and get back to business. There are only two people that know almost all of my struggles, my two best friends. One knows one half, the other handles the rest. Everybody else, including this blog, gets tidbits.

I say it all the time, I think I got this from my grandmother: Life and death is in the power of the tongue. So when you continue to speak of your struggles in a negative light you give them power over you. You provide them with life. You let them take over your mind and then they sit there sucking up energy and time. Trust me, I know this. I struggle with negative thoughts of love and relationships, and when I get to complaining about it, it sucks me dry and not a positive thought about these topics can escape. (That’s one of the things I can not conquer by the way, secrets out!).

So if I make it seem easy, I truly do apologize. Because life isn’t easy and maybe I should work on how I portray things. The idea of this blog is to provide you with the honest truth. And the honest truth is that I, Phenomenal Yetti, am a recovering Negative Nancy trying to get it right just like you. I just go about things in a different way.

For everything else? I would love to keep in touch, though I am sort of bad at it, but I will make the utmost effort in doing so!

Thank you for reading and thank you for reaching out.




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