I read your blog all the time. You actually inspired me to journal because I am not yet brave enough to put my life on the internet. I don’t want to take that leap yet, especially when I know there’s a good chance I’ll flop. It’s hard enough exposing yourself on the web, but I’m not a social media kind of person either, and from what I gathered earlier this year, you’ve been using that to promote and even make friends. My questions for you are: How did you get to where you are in such a short amount of time? How do you go about blogging? Do I have to become a part of a bloggers group of friends? Does your social-anxiety factor in?
You mentioned a lot of points here that I am going to do my very best to address. I appreciate you for reaching out.
How I Got To Where I Am
Believe it or not, I still think of myself as a newbie, but I’ve actually been doing this for 10 years now. I started my first blog with my friend Jovina. I can’t remember it’s name, cute something, but I followed it up with la-belle-femme, ardor-fiend, she-altruistikk, kismet88, and then finally andsoshewrites, and now yettisays.com. This isn’t my first time around the writer’s block, but it is the first time I have turned it into something I deem as my baby, a future source of income, and library of lessons learned for all. I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. It’s just something I do. Short stories, poems, and blog posts. It’s the creative outlet that just never seems to fail.
I’ve always had the urge to share a story.
I think what provided me with some traction is my ability to be vulnerable in this space. If that makes sense…
How Do I Go About Blogging
I observe. I feel. And then I write. I am a strong believer in not posting shit for the sake of posting shit. I’ve tried those regimented schedules of blogging daily and I found myself putting out content that I believed to be pointless. Just writing and posting for the sake of doing so. This works for others, but it doesn’t sit well with me. And, do you guys honestly want me in your inbox daily?
I’m a people watcher. I take in everything that I can in the midst of my 9-5 and all my other daily activities, and then try to make sense of them through a blog post or just merely writing. Nothing is quite off bounds. I’ll touch upon anything my heart desires, and if it involves another party, I do my best to give them a heads up.
I also keep a notebook of post ideas. You know… for just in case 🙂
Blogger Groups & Friends
You’re bound to meet people when blogging, and yes a lot of the people I have met have come through twitter. Both good and bad. What I have come to experience about befriending other bloggers, or mixing and mingling is that this is kind of like high-school.
- There will be people that like you. They will promote and campaign for you. They’ll support you till the cows come home. But sometimes they’ll simply like you for the moment. And it sucks.
- There will be others that simply do not like you, or your words, and you will be ignored like that high-school freshman that is still trying to get her footing. And that sucks too, but not as much.
- For some you’re on their shitlist as soon as you become a “threat” or someone they see as competition.
- Or, maybe, you’ll hit the jackpot and find someone you genuinely like (their words and personality) and create a bond with them, that is more than just a few texts, tweets, and blog comments. My very first blogger friend, Akudo, is the reason why I still continue to be open to the other bloggers I meet. She’s set the bar incredibly high.
It’s really a win / lose situation and it comes with the friendship game. Just be respectful, support those whose words resonate with you, and be gratuitous to those who take the time out to support you also.
The Impact of Social Anxiety
It’s crippling, but it’s also a motivator. I’ve attended 4 blogger events this year and it’s in hopes that I can push through this fear and make networking a little bit easier. I’ve missed countless opportunities because of my anxiety around strangers, and now I think I’ve had enough.
My Advice To You
Just start. You’re already journaling which is amazing. When you’re brave enough to take it to the internet, don’t over think it, just do it. Your blog doesn’t have to be personal (and it certainly shouldn’t be your diary). There are plenty of bloggers out there that have not gone the personal lifestyle route and have built a readership as solid as they come. Once you figure out what it is you want to share with the world, everything ought to fall into place. And if you truly want to be a blogger, you’ll fall into a rhythm, you’ll believe in your posts and then you and I can discuss what comes next. Promise.
But keep writing Shanae. Whether it’s journaling or eventually blogging, just keep at it.
P.S. You gave me the idea for an upcoming blog post, “What Makes A Good Blogger,” so thank you once again.