Our second feature is Tara. There are very few people you while blogging and still try to keep up with their lives. I stumbled upon Tara during my fitblogging days, and still find myself sometimes checking in to see how she is doing, and checking out her online boutique: Fox & Clover!.
Check out Tara’s first feature from 2011 here!
It’s been awhile since you’ve been here, welcome back! Last time we spoke you stated your self-esteem’s ‘okay’ for someone who was considered overweight. Where are you currently on the self-love scale and the weight-loss journey? Do you still think you’re doing okay? Are you doing anything different to maintain or raise your sense of self-worth?
Thank you so much for having me back! I can’t believe how long it’s been since the last post. I still struggle so much with my self-esteem however I try harder nowadays to focus on positive things happening in my life that aren’t related to weight. I now own a pretty successful business and that has raised my sense of self-worth immensely in my mind. I stay busy, busy, busy and that keeps my mind off being negative. I do have moments where I feel down on myself because I haven’t met my weight loss goals or even worked that hard towards them at times.
What’s an insecurity you have yet to come to terms with?
I am super insecure about how I feel other people see me. I think I’m creative, funny, kind and smart but I often doubt that others see that in me and instead focus on the fact that I need to lose weight. I am a huge worrier so I wish I could let that go and live my life more freely.
Do you sometimes feel the need to conform to society’s standards (Physical and Non-Physical)?
I do.. however, that doesn’t change the fact that I LOVE food oh so much which usually outweighs my desire to conform. I know that being healthy is important especially as I’m growing older so I have got back into the swing of things with eating better and working out. I’m a work in progress but my end goal is not to please other people but just to feel comfortable in my own skin. Fat, skinny or whatever – I just want to truly love myself.
Who’s to blame for woman’s low self-esteem: Society, her surroundings, or herself?
A bit of all of those, I suppose. Women are ultimately responsible for building themselves up but it would be a lot easier if everyone else was building us up also! Every woman has something to offer and that has nothing to do with the number on the scale.
What words of advice would you share with your 16-year-old self about self-esteem, self-worth, and of course, surviving these transformational years?
Oh gosh. I would plead with her create healthy goals in her life: eating, activity, friends, relationships, etc. Having good habits heading into adulthood would definitely create a better, more self-loving environment.