Last but not least, Meet Yani, another one of my “tell it how it is” twitter friends. I find her quite fascinating not only because of the outlandish things she tweets (and I really do mean outlandish), but because of the fact that she owns the fact that she is kind of quirky. She’s herself at all times and that’s something I think we all can learn to do!
- Name: Yanouchka (Yani) Mervilus
- Age: 24
- Occupation: Student on a break
- Your Passion: Life
Do you think you have great self-esteem? If yes, was there a time when you didn’t and why? If no, why not? And what are you doing to work on it?
I used to have ZERO self-esteem up until I passed my teen years. Unfortunately, I spent most of my life being bullied primarily in school. This occurred from the time I was 5 up until high school and even college. My hair, my skin color, my weight and even my interests were a target. It sent me into a deep depression for many years.
What do you think is the most attractive thing about you and why? What do you think sets you apart from other women? What’s special about you?
I think I am aesthetically pleasing. I get complimented on my eyes, smile, figure, hair but what truly sets me apart is my exuberant personality. “There is just something enticing about you” is a far better compliment to me than anything physical! I get compliments on both my physical features and personality equally but I think being able to draw someone to you with your personality is far more special.
Quick! You’re having an “ugly” day, what do you do to cheer yourself up?
Um…would it be disgustingly vain to say that this is rare? I have a good reason. After over a decade of being teased about my looks, I learned to love myself. I trained myself to accept and adore what I see in the mirror every single time I glance at it. I went through some of the worst stages of depression where even thoughts of suicide came into the picture simply because of the way people treated me. I refuse to go anywhere near that again. I just love myself and what I see now. This body and face is mine and no other human being should have an effect on how I view or treat it.
What is your take on making physical and non-physical changes for your significant other (if requested, of course)?
This is a tricky subject because I feel as though someone you are in a relationship with should accept you as is but I also believe in growth and change as we get older. I think the relationships we have in life will help mold us into better people. Personally, the change has to come within me. I have to want it for myself.
In terms of women with low self-esteem, who’s to blame: Her or society?
I would blame her direct surroundings. I know beautiful women who fit those “societal standards” but have horrible self-esteem due to a lack of a support system and also because of detrimental relationships.
If there was one thing you could share with the many women who suffer from a lack of self-worth and self-esteem, what would it be?
Therapy, counseling… you need to talk about your issues. Bottling up my issues could have been my demise but I was lucky enough to come across people in my lifetime that allowed me to express myself and feel comfort in revealing some of the things I have revealed here.