Meet my first ever mentee. Shanice is the little sister I gained my freshman year of college, who just so happens to inspire me with every corporate world risk she takes. Understand why I have deemed her a phenomenal beauty down below!
Name: Shanice Jones
What’s your passion?: French Fries! But no seriously I’m still looking. I’m following my curiosity.
Fun Fact: I had chicken pox twice. How unlucky am I?
So let’s get to the nitty gritty! Describe your self-esteem level. Are you a Beyonce- Flawless? Are you struggling with your sense of worth? Or are you a little in-between?
I think I possess an average/high self-esteem but definitely not Beyoncé flawless. There are good days and there are bad. I have truly grown as I’ve aged and I still have more work to do. I continuously try and change my negative thinking.
“Stop being sorry” was one of your resolutions last year. Care to elaborate on this goal and how you tackled it?
This goal was a hard one for me, as 2014 was a hard year. I was sooo crippled by trying to make everyone else happy that I wasn’t taking care of myself. Wanting to not be sorry was me trying to be more selfish and embracing it. Making decisions and not having regrets. No apologies and stand in my truth. I have removed the word “sorry” from my vocabulary and I make my decision only for me.
Do you have any insecurities you have yet to come to terms with?
I find that I can be very self-critical. I think most of my insecurity stem from my performance in my job. Because I am a young black female in a dominantly older white male field, I put a lot of pressure on myself to prove that I am worthy to be where I am.
Who’s to blame for a woman’s low self-esteem: Society, her surroundings, or herself?
I think it’s a little bit of everything. Society puts a lot of pressure on women to look and to act in a certain way. Women are constantly comparing and sizing up themselves to each other. I also believe that your surroundings have a great affect. I had great parents who consistently told me that I was smart, pretty and valued. If I didn’t have that support at home, I believe that outlook on my self-worth would be different. Even with a loving family and positive background doubts can still occur and questions of whether you are good enough. I remember when I was child, maybe 9 or so, I would always try to suck in my non-existing gut. I remember saying to myself, “See! I can breathe and suck it in at the same time.” I think back to those moments and just shake my head. Today it seems so crazy and I’m happy I no longer do that. Okay maybe for photos but that’s it.
What words of advice would you share with your 16-year-old self about self-esteem, self-worth, and of course, surviving these transformational years?
The best is yet to come. Everyone has their strengths. Everyone is good at something. Discover the things that you are good at and enjoy. Focus on those talents and be prideful in them.