Those who have not found their true wealth, which is the radiant joy of Being and the deep, unshakable peace that comes with it, are beggars, even if they have great material wealth. They are looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love, while they have a treasure within that not only includes all those things but is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.
Are you a beggar? Seriously… ask yourself this question: Do you look for validation from everyone besides yourself?
If you asked me this question a few months ago, I probably would’ve answered “yes” and sometimes… if you look at my like for nice things, sometimes expensive things, you would classify me as a beggar too.
So are you a beggar Yetti? Absolutely not. I may fear someone is going to judge me for a decision I make, or a may question if what I am about to do… is the right thing to do, but nowadays… I do what I want regardless, because somewhere within me tells me it’s the best thing to do for myself. It started with my random move to New York, and since then, there are many decisions I have made based off of that same feeling of satisfaction, that gut feeling that tells me “This decision needs to be done.”
But it doesn’t stop there.
I have really come to appreciate the person, the multidimensional being I am becoming. The chubby or non chubby, the pretty or not so pretty, the sometimes sarcastic and always dramatic Yetti. Yes I said people. I had a “Eureka” moment awhile back that really made me look at my life and declare how phenomenal I am… hence the “No Fucks Given Movement”.
NFGM isn’t just about “not caring”. It’s about owning your purpose, setting your own standards and getting over that fear… OF YOURSELF. I’m sure you all know the definition of fear, and I’m sure you all know how crippling it can be… why would you want to live like that?
But Yetti… you used to speak a lot about your fears here on ASSW.com.
I sure as hell did / do. I had a fear of going to a public gym, a fear of having a YouTube channel no one would want to watch, a fear of starting my own business, a fear of crossing the damn street, some serious social anxieties and a fear of losing a person I loved whole-heartedly.
But you know what?
- I go to the gym faithfully now… and push through the anxiety, if there is any
- I have a YT channel, and if you want to watch, cool, if not, the videos will not wilt and die
- She’s A 10! um… HELLO?!
- I party / YOLO … on weeknights and speak to strangers on the train
- And after holding onto said person… I lost them anyways, boo-hoo
The only acceptable fear I think to have is the fear of not living the life you are meant to live. I refuse to grow old with that kind of regret, REFUSE. Listening to my parents’ should’ve, could’ve, would’ve’s is more than enough to make fulfill the urge to capture every opportunity that comes my way… and manifest the ones that don’t.
And that’s not going to happen when one is hiding behind fears, and looking for answers everywhere but from within.
So dear friends… I ask you again, are you a beggar? And if you are, what are we going to do to change this?
*FYI, I’m rereading the Power of Now, and it’s making a whole lot more sense than it did the first time