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  1. This really resonates with me – figuring out ways to see my imperfections as strengths, to turn what I see as my weaknesses into sources of growth. My therapist believes that our greatest flaws are also our biggest strengths, taken to extremes, & I’ve been thinking about this a lot, dissecting it down to figure out whether it’s true & how it applies to me. It’s been a really fascinating exercise for me in seeing myself in different ways, as someone who is not quite as flawed as I think I am & infinitely better/stronger/cooler/more likeable than I often believe myself to be.

    1. I agree, Kate. I have found that the things that always embarrassed me most, or that I was most ashamed of, through self-discovery, are turning out to be my greatest strengths. These are the things that allow me to connect emotionally with people the most. I was always taught to hide imperfections. As a family, as a woman, as a personality, I was taught to keep anything that wasn’t technically admirable under wraps. I think many of us are taught this way. No wonder many of us are secretly suffering, holding so much in, feeling unworthy. We all crave each other’s humanity, you know? But once we stop listening to all of that and we learn to accept all our jagged edges, we can do creative things with them. And then they don’t feel bad at all anymore. It feels more like material, you know, for our art.

      1. “We all crave each other’s humanity…” – I never thought about it this way, but you’re absolutely right.

    2. My therapist says the same thing. She actually spent a lot of time helping me to realize that no everyone else’s “truths” are my truths!

  2. Definitely have to agree. It was like being hit by a freight train in the moment I realized I was trying to be perfect. Every since I was a small child, I tried to do everything right. I hated being reprimanded or corrected. Only to become an adult and realize that you can never be perfect. HAHA. So I have been working on accepting that. Especially in my relationship. I thought, how can he have gripes about me? Doesn’t he know I’m perfect? LOL. Sounds crazy to say it, but that’s what my actions showed. You are certainly on to something when deciding to embrace all of who you are and not counting on outside sources to validate you. We are who we are and should be so unapologetically even in the midst of becoming the best versions of ourselves. Great post!

    1. ASHLEY! You sound like me! I wanted to perfect so badly when I was younger, and lost a lot of myself in the process! Individuality is beautiful, it’s what makes us … us! Thank you for reading!

  3. Yes, our imperfections help make us unique and beautiful but they also mold us and shape our journeys of growth. Everyone has a different, individualized set of imperfections and thus, their own path to coming into their authentic selves at work, in love, within their bodies, spiritually, in our callings, and what we have to offer life. It’s hard to accept and acknowledge these imperfections and it’s even harder to figure out how to navigate our way through these flaws to become our best selves. Trying to hide or mask them or pretend we don’t have any only dims our light.

  4. Loooooove this! I am super late to getting around to reading some of these, but I’m glad I landed on I, I think we all can relate to at times feeling like we’re too much and viewing that as an imperfection and thus denouncing it, when really flaws can be so beautiful and can really add music to your personality and the way you live your life. I’m glad you’ve embraced your flaws. I’m still working on it, but reading things like this definitely encourage the thought process I have to flaws. I’ve checked off “too emotional” and am working on “too worrisome”, “too impulsive”, “overthinking”, and “getting worked up over little stuff”. Lovely post.

  5. Great post! I too spent my childhood and most of my adult life trying to be perfect. If I did anything remotely wrong (even if I and the rest of the world saw nothing “wrong” in my actions) I was punished. I wasn’t ever a “naughty” child and although I had a lot to say for myself as a teenager, and sailed close to the “getting into trouble” wind, I avoided crossing the line. It’s only over the past few years that I realised that the underlying fear of “getting into trouble” was holding me prisoner to the opinions and views of others. My actions and choices were determined by this underlying fear. Embracing the fact that I am imperfect, have my flaws and that I am an “acquired taste” (love that), has been liberating, as well as scary but definitely worth it.

  6. I am passionate about embracing imperfections as a part of our beauty, so I REALLY loved this post! I agree with you that we get to define our own truths about ourselves and we do NOT have to embrace anything that is contrary to that, if we choose not too. It is our right. Yet, somehow we feel this obligation to give in to what others think and offer penance for being who we are, when it is actually Divine in itself. This was an AWESOME post!! I vibe with this.