When I first started this series, I was shy and beyond comfortable in my own skin. Granted I still do not know how to take a compliment but my response and reactions towards them are nothing a like now. I’d like to say something spectacular happened that suddenly made me see the light, but it was gradual… and probably came about from this move to NYC. Being surrounded by some many different people on a constant basis has completely been an eyeopener.
But enough about my progress made, it’s time for I Love ME – Post Series: Round 4! The first participant is probably one of the reasons I continued to write. We met during our crazed days as B2K fans and within a world where writing was everything. While I used it as an escape for my teen and college miseries, she went on to hone her skills pursuing journalism. Meet my friend Jaida, Jai if you’re nasty. She’s the owner of Memoirs Of The Chic, and full blown supporter of my crazy, inappropriate rants within my personal twitter.
- Name: Jaida
- Age: 24
- Occupation: aspiring journalist
- Your Passion: journalism, woman empowerment
Do you think you have great self-esteem? If yes, was there a time when you didn’t and why? If no, why not? And what are you doing to work on it?
Yes, I was extremely self conscious when I was 9. I began gaining weight in the 4th grade and I got picked on and bullied a lot because of it. I have my days considering the “quarter life crisis” I’m going through, but I take a step back and remind myself of all the positive things I’ve done in the past and present.
What do you think is the most attractive thing about you and why? What do you think sets you apart from other women? What’s special about you?
I’m open minded and I’m caring. I try not to turn my nose up at things I don’t understand. I realize that everyone may not have the same ideas or beliefs as me, but that’s the beauty of the world. There is so much to learn about other people from all walks of life!
Quick! You’re having an “ugly” day, what do you do to cheer yourself up?
Pull out the iPod and crank up the volume. Music is always my pick-me-up. I like to listen to stuff I can dance to get my spirits up.
What is your take on making physical and non-physical changes for your significant other (if requested, of course)?
I don’t think you should change yourself for anyone else. If you want to make changes, make sure they’re for YOU. If you have to make changes just to appease your spouse (if it’s not meant to benefit the relationship in a healthy manner), then you don’t need to be with that person.
In terms of women with low self-esteem, who’s to blame: Her or society?
It can be a combination of things. Family issues, issues in past relationships, and the pressure of society to be “perfect” are the causes of low self-esteem in my opinion.
If there was one thing you could share with the many women who suffer from a lack of self-worth and self-esteem, what would it be?
I would tell them to value themselves first, then others will follow suit. We’re all self conscious at times, but you have to look at the pros instead of the cons about yourself. Everyone is unique and brings something different to the table. Whether you like photography or you like fashion or DIY projects, it doesn’t matter. Hone in on that! Do (positive and healthy) things that make you feel good! You never know, you may inspire someone else in the process!