Now we’re not looking for distractions here, we covered that in step one. It’s time to find things and put together a routine that keeps your mind at peace and helps you feel good while you’re going through these changes. Some people do not need to do this, they have the bounce back needed to keep it pushing, but if you’re like me, and need a little hand holding? This will aid you tremendously.
Why are you doing this? Because you deserve to feel good at all times. I don’t think there is much else to it really, especially when removing toxicity can be a little of a shock to the system. Take a peek at the below examples I have tried:
- Exercising – Get up and take yourself for a run or a walk. Get into the fat burning zone, run till you reach that runner’s high! You’ll cherish the endorphins… and the hot bod. I drag my ass to the gym 4 or 5 times a week at 6:30AM. It puts me in such a good mood for the rest of the day, and helps me sleep at night.
- Reading – Not for a distraction, but for peace. Go into that dreaded Self Help aisle, look up books such as “The Alchemist”, or autobiographies of great people
- Yoga – Yes this is exercising, but it also comes with a few more added benefits. It promotes relaxation, decreases one’s stress levels and increases your patience. It’s a great way to center yourself while leaning out your body and there are many different types of yoga that aid specific health benefits. Check out this list, so far I have tried Bikram and Restorative yoga. Both were extremely difficult because of the silence and my racing thoughts, but I somehow managed to quiet them by the end of class.
- Music– Listen to music that keeps you calm… Not Yeezus, but maybe some jazz, some R&b. For me? It was a mixture Maxwell, Alice Smith, Vivian Green, Tracy Chapman and so on.
- Meditation – This. This was everything to me back in February. I meditate twice a day, once when I woke up, again when I go to sleep. I think people avoid meditation because they think you have to just sit in silence and wait for peace to find you. You can do it that way, but again, just with yoga, there are different ways to tackle this. I have Buddhist aunts, so I began with chanting. The chanting distracted me from my pesky thoughts and kind of pushed me into a hypnotic rhythm. You can chant a mantra, you can listen to recordings that step you through a visual, or if you’re truly a pro… sit in silence. Start with a few minutes at a time and then work your way up!
- Therapy – [ gasp ] Therapy is not just for the mentally unstable. It’s for those who need a place to vent, a place to learn coping mechanisms, a place to make sense of things with guidance and without the judgment.
There are many other options to keep you feeling at ease, but remember that all of this requires patience and some faith in the process. You will not have COMPLETELY peaceful days in the beginning, but I promise you it does get better with time and practice. All of this is helping you learn to put you first and increase your tolerance for life’s bullshit.1