She wants to be considered.
Considered. Appreciated. All of that. Gifts are nice. Words of affirmation? That too is greatly needed. But your Yetti believes actions speak louder than words and to show your Yetti you love her, you need to show her that she’s factored into this life of yours.
It goes beyond cleaning the bathroom after you’ve made a mess of it. It goes beyond making the bed in the morning. It’s all about thoughtfulness. It’s the acknowledgment that when she asks you to do these small tasks, you know it’s not because she wants nag. It’s because coming home to a made bed settles her thoughts. It’s because thanks to a sexual assault, multiple showers a day are now a thing for her. Especially during the winter months.
She needs to know you make room for her, the way she’ll gladly do so for you. She needs to see that you’re thinking of her because as both a Sun & Moon sign Scorpio, she’s riding hard for you, and loving you the way most can’t even fathom. She needs to know that when she shit hits the fan and the goings get rough, you’re thinking about ‘we’, and not just yourself.
Meet her halfway.
She fucks with reciprocity. Not an eye for an eye type of thing, but if she’s willing to step outside of her comfort zone and I don’t know, move cross country with you, she’s expecting you to acknowledge her love for you and meet her halfway with support and appreciation.
Support the fuck out of her.
It’s true when they say opposites attract, because you two? You both enjoy different things. She’s type A, you’re a go with the flow type of guy. She’s a realist to a T, and you? You’re an idealist forcing her to think out of the box. But even though some things do not make much sense to you right now, support the fuck out of her purpose and vision. Be her number one fan. Like the Instagram post. Read her published thoughts. Hold her hand through that job transition. Remind her why the fuck she started. But above all, take her passion seriously. Don’t get me wrong, she’ll keep moving towards it whether you show love or not, but her magic deepens when she knows you’re in her corner. Be in her corner.
She’ll need your help.
But I think you know this already. Through loving you, she’s found new ways to love herself. And with finally embarking on a healthy and loving relationship with you, she acknowledges the huge responsibility to hold herself accountable to being the best whole version she can be. It’s why she’s taken her healing so seriously, but she’ll need your help too. She’ll need your patience as she tries to get it right. She’ll need your natural light as she battles the darkness. She’ll rely on your heartbeat to regulate her own when anxiety rears its ugly head. She’ll look to your spiritual practices to remember to remain centered.
She’s not asking you to bear the burden of her baggage because she’d never want to weigh you down. She’s not asking you to fix her, because you can not fix this type of thing. It’s not yours to fix. She just needs your help in the little capacity you already provide. Remind her she can fucking do this.
Do the work. YOUR work.
As much as she continues to work on herself, you must do the same. Unpack your baggage. Communicate effectively, without anger and ego. Learn to self-care so you remain healthy within your relationship. She is your partner. Your equal. She compliments you, just as much you compliment her. You guys are good as a unit, but the unit is powerful when you’re both whole and standing firm in who you are. Do your own work as she strives to do her own. You owe it to each other. You owe it to yourself.
Written from all the things you already do.
I love you to the moon and back, Mr. Smith.