#FckFears Update 2

1. Skydiving
2. Host 2 Events
3. Grocery Shop at the Grocery Store down the street
4. Take a gym class at a very popular gym
5. Travel on my own for the weekend
6. Attend an afterwork event in NYC
7. Pitch an idea
8. Party TWICE in NYC
9. Take a 30 minute walk at a park
10. Make a Friend.

This past weekend I attended “Brunch, Bloggers and Books “ hosted by Twenties Unscripted in D.C.  Why did I choose to attend this event? Well for the panelist, the brunch and I have a mild writers crush on Tyece( the secret is out y’all). No but honestly, it gave me the opportunity to branch out and expand my network. Thus allowing me to cross off not one, but two things from my Social Anxiety list.

Travel on my own

Yes, I go to work, I travel home to see my parents and I go and visit my bestie in CT, but those are kind of the norm for me. When I’m home… I’m home, I surrounded by everything I know and that is familiar to me. Connecticut is borderline the same, bestie is an extension of my comfort zone. But D.C. ? By myself? That was a challenge.

I took a 5 hour bus down to Washington D.C, correction Baltimore because a fool a Port Authority put me on the wrong motherfucking bus. Once arriving into D.C. I took the metro to my fancy Hotel and relaxed before I decided to explore my surroundings for a bit.

The best part about this trip was that I didn’t experience any type of anxiety. Not when buying my ticket for the metro, not when a stranger asked me to go on a date and serenaded me while I waited for the red-line, not when I had lunch by myself, and not when I went out for dinner with some cool people or at the brunch.

Make a Friend

Correction, I’ve made 4 within the last two months, but the friends I am talking about are the ones that made me feel beyond comfortable during our dinner this past Saturday evening. Tyece of Twenties Unscripted and Erica of  Everything EnJ. Now I’m not completely new to meeting people from Twitter, but these two were people I met got to know on my own. There are very few writers that understand where I am coming from within blog posts, my angry satirical tweets and all of the above. These two get it… no, but they really do.

We did dinner, which felt like we were old college friends catching up, it’s crazy how well you can click with strangers. I think what intrigued me the most was that they both have a similar ambitious drive. That drive of wanting the absolute best from themselves, the same “complacency is for losers” mentality that I get shunned for all the time. It felt great to be amongst these women and laugh, discuss and inspire all within one conversation. It will be happening again.