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Bring Back Personal Blogging

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here’s something about hearing the words, “Me too,” that are mid-key soothing. It’s the validation that I’m not the only sucker struggling with life at that moment in time. And I know, the only source of validation we ever need is the nod of okay from ourselves, but sometimes a “I made that same stupid mistake and it ruined my year,” is needed. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy. I call it the “Me Too Factor.” 


The fancy definition of the Me Too Factor:

The ability to connect and uplift one another through the sharing of not only our happiest moments, but the unfortunate mishaps as well.

The not so fancy definition:

Getting real and sharing stories about our lives, the pleasant ones and the fucked up ones, that make others comment, “Oh shit! Me too!”


I’m missing the Me Too factor, and well, everything else that comes before and after it. I don’t think people are going to like where I am going with this post. In fact, I know a few won’t, but the URL up above does indeed say “YettiSays” so I’m going to let this half rant / half plea fly.

I want Personal Blogging back.

It started with the above tweet from blogging veteran @Huny. Most of the world knows her as the design powerhouse, but to me and a few other blogging OG’s, she’s Huny / Hundalina Jones from thatbitch.com circa the 2000s era. Back then, before live journals, xangas, and tumblrs, we were coming undone, not so poetically, on the Internet. We were writing without expectations and sometimes without comments because back then, if you didn’t have greymatter or b2, you weren’t receiving those. We were blogging freely and pretty much uncensored, because at that point in time, we didn’t have to look over our shoulders for the possibility of someone using our words against us. We were sharing and venting unapologetically without the worries of sticky fingers, because stealing someone’s content meant you were stealing his or her story too, and no one was stupid enough to do that.

We were personal bloggers with no genre, no niche, and simply no fucks to give.

[Tweet “”Personal blogging is an art. It’s purposeful and passion filled. It’s full of healing.””]

Blogging has clearly evolved since those days, and don’t get me wrong, I love what it has become and what it has enabled many of us to do today. It’s a multi-faceted community that without a doubt can not be replaced. It’s some writer’s bread and butter, and more recently, their stepping stone into beautiful opportunities. But at the same time, it’s over saturated. It’s dry. It’s more fancy pictures, and the selling of products. It’s look at me, I’m awesome, do you want to shop my look, or buy my PDF of tips and tricks you can actually google on your own for free.

We’ve lost the essence of sharing, and to be honest, I think I can count on my hands and maybe one foot, how many bloggers and writers I know that are still sharing posts about their lives, and doing that shit with heart.

I said this during my speech at the Black Weblog Awards, personal blogging is an art. Yes an art. It’s purposeful and passion filled. It’s full of healing, making sense of one’s daily happenings and heart-breaks, while discovering, honing, revamping, and perfecting his or her’s voice in this world. It’s self-discovery done altruistically in the eye of the public because well, others can learn a lesson too. However, it is not sharing “Dear Diary” stories for the sake of a reaction or crying on the internet. Or posting click bait in hopes of hitting goal numbers. Or my personal favorite, producing absolute trash to up one’s follower counts.

For personal blogging to be what it truly is, we need to be, well, personal. We need more realness and relatability. We need stories, the good and the bad, the victories and the struggles. We need to reduce the fluff, up the the vulnerability, and honor authenticity, because in a world with a lot of noisy moving parts, your words, believe it or not, contribute to its narrative. We need to step out of the comfort zone and explore ourselves and our thoughts. The weird ones. The sexual ones. The ones that are not easily digested but are relevant as fuck.  We need less pre-planned posts full of clichés and beaten down concepts, and more posts driven by the bullshit that is indeed our lives coated with blessings and hardcore lessons learned. And of course, lastly, we need a little bit more heart, because let’s face it, words taste better this way.

Bring back personal blogging

[Tweet “”We need more posts written with heart, because let’s face it, words taste better this way.””]

 

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17 Comments

  1. I can’t even begin to tell you how spot on you are with this and how much I appreciate you for taking every single thought that I’ve had about this very subject and writing about it. Blogging, some odd years ago, helped me form so many connections with people so far away yet so close. It helped me get through single motherhood, college, careers, life..

    I’m grateful for the few TRUE bloggers that remain. And definitely grateful for you. (:

  2. Yes, Yes, YES! This post really spoke to me. I would always sit in my apartment and feel like I want to blog but I just want to write. I don’t want all the smoke and mirrors that go into being flashy. I just want to share how I’m feeling or what’s on my mind without care if people read it or not and to show people that they aren’t alone. So thank you for this post!

    1. Can I confess, that after bitching and moaning in the post… I still ask those same questions!? Just want to write to write. Sigh

  3. I can so relate to this! I feel that everything about blogging is either sponsored or everything about self-help. Which there is nothing with those but I feel that personal blogging I feel more of a connection with the blogger and myself by reading their life because at the end of the we all are dealing with same sort of issues in life and its great to get a different input from someone else perspective.

  4. Thank you for this post! I am new to bogging and I do not have a niche. It is comforting to know that there are still some personal bloggers out there.

  5. Thank you so much for writing about this…over the course of several weeks I’ve been searching for literally anything that would set me up as a personal blogger and this just rekindle my fire

  6. This was so great. Sometimes I go back to my personal blog just to get other thoughts off from the norm. It is self expression, probably of the most visceral type. I still love it. It’ll always be a form of therapy for me. Don’t you stop.

  7. I SO agree with this! I used to be a religious follower of Huny back in the days when BlackPlanet and CollegeClub were poppin’. I even had my own blog for a while. And then I just…disappeared. Anyhoo, I am glad that I am not the only one who longs for the blogs of yesteryear. Huny was definitely “that bitch” long before Lizzo was!

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