She rants. She roars. But, mostly, she writes. Tyece is a force to be reckoned with here in these blogging streets, and I can completely understand why after meeting her last Ma,y and getting to experience her passion and drive in the flesh. This lady here is not simply just a powerhouse, but she is also one of the most compassionate women I have connected with through blogging. Check out Tyece’s confessions below.
Name: Tyece Wilkins
Blog: Twenties Unscripted
How many years you’ve been blogging: 6, 2.5 on Twenties Unscripted
What made you decide to open a blog?
I originally started blogging because I worked at the front desk of my college dorm and I was bored. I needed something to do during my shift, especially the dull shifts in the middle of the night, once I got tired of people watching. Now, the reasons I blog are much more nuanced and varied.
How do you decide on what to share with the world? How do you protect yourself from public scrutiny?
What I have decided to share with the world has changed over time. I usually say two things are always off-limits: specifics about my work life as well as my sex life. Homie just don’t play dat. However, I also write a lot less about my dating life in general now. It annoys me when people try to play a game of connect the dots after I write something, speculating on what could be going on or who it could be going on with. If I write about dating now, it’s usually in the past tense, when the experiences are far away in the rearview mirror. I don’t know if there is a guaranteed way to protect yourself from public scrutiny, but you can at least minimize what the public has access to scrutinize.
Have you ever experienced an “Oh my God, I put this on the internet?” moment? Please elaborate.
I can’t say that I have. I’m sure I could dig through my archives and find something that now evokes that emotion of “Oh, my God, I put this on the Internet?” But, at the time of publication, I am ready for what I’m throwing out into the Universe. I believe in what I’m saying at that moment and the channel I’m using to say it, even if it later comes back to bite me in the ass.
What has been one of the most difficult issues you have faced as blogger?
Phew, there are a shit ton, so that’s a tough question. If I looked at the sum total of the tough issues I’ve faced as a blogger–insensitive comments, sensing competition from others, learning not to take it personally when people stop reading and supporting, and people knocking off my work–I would say those all represent the issue of learning how to put my blinders on and simply focus on what I’m doing. All of those issues have a common denominator–concerning myself too much with other people instead of the work I know I was brought here to do. I’m learning how to eliminate the noise of others.
What advice would you share with new bloggers, or those toying with the idea of opening a blog?
Do the work. Don’t believe the hype–anyone who seems to have earned an ounce of success in this thing endured a lot of sleepless nights to do so. Remain consistent.
Has blogging or writing presented you with any cool opportunities?
What’s funny is that I know blogging and writing have presented me with cool opportunities, but when I read that question, the first thing I think about is all of the cool people I’ve met through blogging. And meeting those cool people often times translates into cool opportunities. I love to tell the story of my friend and photographer Jazz Williams. She was the first person I met from blogging. When I say that, I say she read the blog, emailed me to say she was moving from Vegas to the D.C. area and suggested we hang out. It was like a blogging blind date. A year and a half later, we’re still connected and she has loaned her amazing talent to three TU projects. Cool people are the ones who create those cool opportunities.
Share 3 of your favorite posts!
- Do Not Surrender Your Twenties Pt. 3
- What I Know About Life Three Years After Graduation
- Every Time I Want To Text You
Finish the sentence:
Being a blogger means being vulnerable and transparent in a world that favors nonchalance and disguises.
Being a blogger does not mean everyone needs to know all of my business.
As a blogger I will never exploit my personal relationships, privacy or writing philosophy (less listicles, more essays) for hits.
The stereotype I hate the most about bloggers Daisy Lewellyn from “Blood, Sweat and Heels” said last season (and I’m paraphrasing) that bloggers just want to sit behind their computers and passive-aggressively vent. Not true. I love that blogging is a conduit to actually meeting and interacting with real people.
Top 5 things that turn me away from a blog
- Cluttered design
- Hideous design (Please stop with the hot pink and black or the red and white or any other eyesore of a color combo.)
- Content that hasn’t been updated within the past month
- Too many ads
- A lack of focus when it comes to what you’re blogging about
Tyece Wilkins is the creator and editor-in-chief of Twenties Unscripted, a blog for millennial women. She enjoys drinking red wine, reading, getting entrenched in long conversations with friends and creating customized things that she doesn’t need on Zazzle and Vistaprint.
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