Last feature of this series is Kiara. We can’t exactly pinpoint how we met each other, but we know it was definitely for a reason. I knew Kiara was a force to be reckoned with (despite her humble blog name) after I completed her first e-course, The Comparison Complexion. She gently guides you through the process of eliminating that self-defeating behavior everyone has stumbled across: comparing ourselves to others. But not only that, the e-course encouraged you to come face to face with what makes you vulnerable. Definitely something, we all need to do. Meet Kiara, meek and modest, but so very passionate and powerful.
Kiara! So glad to have you on the blog! Why don’t you tell my readers a little bit about yourself!
Thank you for having me! I alway feel a little weird talking about myself, believe it or not. There’s just something about it. Any who, I like to refer to myself as being the girl next door. You know, pretty laid back and chilled. I am 26, married of 4 years, and at times I can be very introverted, haha. Overall, I’d say I’m a pretty down to earth person.
Describe your self-esteem level. Are you a Beyonce- Flawless? Are you struggling with your sense of worth? Or are you a little in-between?
I’ve always been confident in my looks. Where I’m from, kids would eat you alive if you showed even an ounce of anything otherwise! However, my true insecurities laid within who I was and where I came from. At a young age my parents uprooted my sisters and I from what from what we called home to the suburbs in Dallas,Texas. It was completely different from my hometown Saginaw, Michigan. In fact, I’ve always referred to the change as a complete culture shock. No one knew at the time, but I always felt like an outcast. I never really knew where I fit in best. I’m happy to say that I no longer live with the want of other people’s approval, but from my own standards now and have been for years.
Tell us a little bit about your #ModestBeauty campaign and how we can get involved!
I wouldn’t necessarily call it a campaign. It’s something I’ve always believed in. A #ModestBeauty is a woman who embodies #CommunityOverCompetition. Someone who’s not trying to be the It Girl, but whose comfortable in who they are. A #ModestBeauty knows how to be beautiful without being big-headed, without being snooty and feeling like everyone owes them something because of who they are or what they have. My tribe is filled of #ModestBeauties over at www.MeekNModest.com and we are always welcoming others to be apart of our Community!
Last year, you ran an email-course on acknowledging the positives of self-comparisons and ending unnecessary comparing. What helped you get to the point of eliminating both?
I’d say that as with most things learned, with time comes wisdom. I know that sounds short or simple but it’s the truth, and I just want to help others learn what I now know when dealing with both self comparison and competition. It’s something most don’t speak on these days. I welcome anyone that would like to know more about The Comparison Complexion to do so at http://bit.ly/1Sjs1zL.
You seem to have the minimalist life down! Can you share 3-4 tips that can get others started?
Absolutely, I’d say to first try and prepare mentally for the transition. You know, don’t take on too much at one time because it can quickly get overwhelming. Then, slowly grasp a tighter control on consuming. That was a hard one for me at first. Once you feel you have that down you’ll want to then start on the de-cluttering process.
2016 has just begun! Do you have any new projects up your sleeve?
I still can’t believe we are now in February of 2016. To answer your question… I’m always looking for ways I can out do myself when it comes to just bringing for my community. I have a few projects that I currently have in the works. One happens to be re-releasing get The Comparison Complexion actually.
What words of advice would you share with your 16-year-old self about self-esteem, self-worth, and of course, surviving these transformational years?
I love this question. I’d definitely tell the 16-year-old me to never let my thirst for personal growth to quiver. Not to be small-minded, and to overall just live from my own standards and not everyone else’s.