Throwback Thursday: There’s Only One You


It doesn’t matter when or where, it doesn’t matter the age, we’ve all experienced it at some point, so we all can relate to that icky feeling of being compared to someone else. You feel inadequate, sort of as though you don’t measure up. These thoughts consume you and affect your every day choices and even worse… you begin to obsess over these comparisons which essentially means you believe them. She’s prettier than you,  She has a better body than you,  She makes more money than me,  She … [Read more...]

You’re Pretty For a Dark-Skinned Chick


"Excuse me miss, can I have a second of your time?" It was early, my hair was not in a suitable style and my eyes were mascara-less. My first instinct was to ignore him. I wanted to shake my head 'no', and continue walking across Broadway towards my date: my 6:30AM personal training session. But instead, I remembered my best-friend's words of me not being approachable, and so I stopped and gave him the second that he had asked for. "You're absolutely gorgeous. A gorgeous dark-skinned … [Read more...]

Suicide, Depression & Therapy [p2]


After the events of this week, I decided to continue the conversation I had a few months ago and that most of us have been having this week. The passing of Robin Williams made me stop what I was doing... until my friend continued on to tell me that he had been depressed and committed suicide. Still saddened by the news that Mrs. Doubtfire was no longer with us,  I couldn't help but think, "What a selfish act." But I can explain this. I went off of my own personal experiences. I assumed … [Read more...]

People Accept The Love They Think They Deserve


I think the first time I heard this quote was in the beginning of last year. I had just watched “The Perks of Being a Wallflower,” and with everything I was experiencing I was feeling  like an emotional fuck on the plane. I had just left the mini life break I had needed with family in London, and I was heading back to deal with the bullshit I so badly wanted to escape. My apartment was under new management, and we had a recent break-in in the building, not to mention no heat or hot water (which … [Read more...]

HYGHPB: Feel Good Routine


Now we're not looking for distractions here, we covered that in step one. It's time to find things and put together a routine that keeps your mind at peace  and helps you feel good while you're going through these changes. Some people do not need to do this, they have the bounce back needed to keep it pushing, but if you're like me, and need a little hand holding? This will aid you tremendously. Why are you doing this? Because you deserve to feel good at all times. I don't think there is much … [Read more...]

HYGHPB: Goodbye Negativity


Saying goodbye to negativity may be the most difficult step out of the five I am outlining... but probably the most important. We hold onto things that no longer serve it's purpose, things that do more harm that good and sometimes, situations that no longer deserve our time or presence. I'm talking about objects, jobs, behaviors, activities and yes, people. When making the decision to be happy, one most let go of everything that will hold them back from achieving this happiness. Relationships … [Read more...]