What Are We Waiting For?


"It's so fucking cold today," has been the choice conversation starter as of late. Yesterday's weather forced me into a sweater and blazer, because it was far too cold to display my arms and I was far too much in denial to accept that it is indeed fall to pull out a light jacket. Summer said, "Fuck this, I'm out. I do not want to wait until the 20th." It is now Autumn. And oh yeah, where the hell did all the year go? Though fall is by far my favorite season, I can't help but remember it to … [Read more...]

Because Rape Is Just That Serious


I’ve toyed with discussing this on my blog for the past year. I tend to shy away from this topic on social media and my blog because I feel as though it is too fragile of a topic to delve into. For the past day or two, my twitter timeline has been on HIGH. Topics from colorism, to Ferguson, to domestic violence and to of course rape have all been discussed and after unplugging from twitter for the day, I returned to a "She wasn't even rape-worthy," tweet. Now this isn't the first time I've seen … [Read more...]

Thank You Chicago


We flagged him down from the hotel entrance for about 3 minutes. He insisted we walked to him, instead of him to drive towards us like all the other cabs we had taken this weekend. He wasn't very friendly, the cab smelled of BO and his seats were ripped and unkempt. "Get in," "We're trying, you have shit all over your seats," I replied before he tossed a lysol wipe to the back of the seat. Why? I don't know because what I was attempting to remove had clearly been there for a few … [Read more...]

Throwback Thursday: 20 Things The Pre 25-year-old Should Learn


Originally Written 12/06/2013 On my birthday I was asked what was the most important thing I learned before turning 25. I ignored the question and continue the conversation. Not because I am rude or anything, but simply because I couldn't give an answer. I still can't really give an answer, but it gave me the below idea for a blog post. So folks, here it is. And So She Writes presents: 20 Things The Pre 25-year-old Should Learn In Order To Not Suck At Life. Change is inevitable. It's … [Read more...]

5 Things Twitter Taught Me About Men


Thank my multiple group chats for this one! O1 | MEN GOSSIP I believe it was Diddy that coined the phrase "bitchassness" and it honestly is the only way to explain some of the events that occur in the land of Twitter... and sometimes outside. As I explained before, I sometimes view twitter as the internet version of a high-school cafeteria. It encompasses the various groups, not to mention the same drama drawn from the same tired topics constantly being discussed as if they were breaking … [Read more...]

Pick Your Battles Wisely


“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.” - C. Joybell C T he first time I heard this phrase was last year after a pretty heated argument I had with a friend. I heard it again, when mediating a sit … [Read more...]